I’m realizing now, after all these years, that almost all self-discovery is worthless. Don’t get me wrong: I think it is incredibly important to know yourself, perhaps the most important thing that you will ever do. But the process of knowing yourself through self-discovery – or “introspection” – is completely flawed.
We need to see ourselves from the outside-in.
Left entirely to our own analysis and self-discovery, it is impossible to see ourselves as we truly are. It is through the “Introspection Illusion” that we believe we are all better car drivers than the average (statistically impossible) but more ominously, that we are incapable of achieving our greatest dreams because of our lack of talent, our flaws, our weaknesses.
The single greatest obstacle to achieving our goals and dreams is embodied in the sincere belief that we will fail. And we all do it – fail before we even begin.
You see, when we look inside ourselves, we find fear and doubt more often than we may find courage and belief. And such is the power of fear and doubt that it crushes our ambitions. The dreamer that you were when you were seventeen becomes the disillusioned, boxed-in adult, fearful of failure
But success finds itself through a determined belief that you can achieve something.
So, rather than believing that you are an above average driver but could never play the piano, start talking to those who are closest to you, those you trust, those whose opinions you value. Ask them what strengths – and only strengths – they see in you. You may be amazed. And list the things you have done that you never thought you could, however small. Keep the list going and add to it every day. Then take just one thing you never thought you could do and start the journey towards achieving it.
Stop looking inside yourself and finding failure – an excuse to never start. Don’t fall for the Introspection Illusion.
Build a view of your amazing self from the outside-in. You are so much more than you know.